Dealing with break-ups

Dealing with break ups is not always an easy thing to do because we are already quite overwrought with emotions. Yet, that is precisely the time when it is most essential to maintain a clear head and to make sure that nothing foolish is done in the sensitive interim between breakup and cooling down.

Friday, January 16, 2009

My Story - How To Get Your Ex Back Fast

Hi and welcome. My name is Chase Oliver, and like you and almost everyone else in the world, i’ve suffered from the severe emotional swings having to do with breaking up.

Shortly after I came home from college, I started dating a girl named Sara. We had known eachother before, but had only engaged in small talk and they typical “hi, how are you”

Then one night I was out with some friends, and Sara and I got to talking. I had always had a ’secret’ crush on her, but I thought that acquaintances was as far as our relationship would ever go.

Well after talking to her, it became clear that there was more to the situation than I had thought before.

She was a very interesting person (not to mention GORGEOUS), and we quickly found out that we were very comfortable around eachother. We got close really fast.

You know how it is - when you’re with someone, and it just “feels right”. Thats what Sara and I had.

A comfort level and an attraction that had shown itself very fast after we actually started talking that night.

So we started officially ‘dating’ about 3 weeks later after talking and hanging out a bunch more times. And I can honestly tell you that I’ve NEVER gotten so close to someone so FAST.

And Maybe That Wasn’t a Good Thing

But at the time, it was the greatest feeling in the world. To all of a sudden discover someone who could understand you so deeply and on a different level than you’ve ever experienced with someone else.

How your mind always wanders to them when you aren’t with them, and you can’t wait till the next ime you are together.

And those are the perks of the ‘honeymoon’ stage of any relationship. It seems like the two of you are unstoppable, and that you could take on the world and anything life throws at you.

I know - I was there too… And there is no better feeling in the world than knowing you have someone there to stand beside you, and that will back you up and be supportive of your dreams and goals.

When you love someone so deeply, you want nothing more than to see them happy, and you’d do almost anything to make that happen.

Then, With NO WARNING - Lightning Strikes

And that ‘lightning’ could be represented by any number of things. A job change or loss, a new co worker, a loss of sex drive, a big fight…

There are thousands of them. In my situation with Sara it was a need for space.

After we had dated for a few years, we took a trip to California for a vacation. I set up the most beautiful proposal a girl could ever ask for. (We’re talking some storybook stuff here)

And with tears of joy in her eyes, she happily accepted the ring, and told me she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I was the happiest guy in the world.

But as the wedding date got closer, Sara started to become distant.

When previously she couldn’t stop talking about plans for the wedding and how excited she was, now she had become very passive about the whole thing. It didn’t seem to mean anything to her anymore.

And That’s When She Dropped The Bomb

She said she needed some space, and some time to think. The problem was she didn’t know how long, or how much space.

It became clear when she stopped returning calls and texts, that she was VERY serious about this.

I was completely devastated. It felt like my life was going to end. I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t go to work because my emotions were on a ‘hair trigger’

When something like that happens to you, it’s human nature to basically “shut down”

Minutes feel like hours as you stare at the clock wishing, hoping, wondering if she’ll call. Thinking of the past and everything you could have done differently.

It’s a total mental and emotional drain, and the pain feels like it’s never gonna end.

But it doesn’t have to be like that.

So many men and women make extreme mistakes after a break up that make it virtually impossible for another chance at being with the one you love ever again.

But it’s ok because there IS a solution.

I did everything wrong to try and get Sara back. And it wound up making me look pretty pathetic along with pushing her even farther away.

Until I started doing some searching around on the Internet and found the book that literally saved my relationship (and my sanity!).

And THAT is exactly how I got Sara back and we are now happier than we’ve ever been. All thanks to this book:

I turned to T ‘Dub’ Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T ‘Dub’ authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called “The Magic Of Making Up”. And you know, it worked like magic for us.

Now we are more in love than ever.

Click Here Now To Discover A Proven Method For Getting The Love Of Your Life Back FAST

Rooting For YOU,

Chase Oliver

Fast Tips For Dealing With A Break Up

When dealing with a break up , it can seem like nothing in your life will ever be the same again. You feel like you’ll never beback to ‘normal’ and it can be an incredibly frustrating feeling.

Many will try to give you advice on how to cope, but they don’t know what’s really going on in your situation.

I’ve been there, and I came out fine on the other side. So I know for a fact that you WILL be ok. So here’s some real world tips to help you get back to normal again in your life.

How To Get Over Someone You Love

If you want to know how to get over someone you love, you must realize that none of the answers are easy ones. No matter how ready you might think you are to move on and get over that person, that you have to ask how to do it at all shows that it’s going to be a painful process.

Sometimes it’s a slow process, too. You might think you’re over someone and a year or two later be reminded of that person and feel all the pain and sadness again. That doesn’t mean you’re not over the person, though.

If you’ve had a lot emotionally invested into a relationship and it ends, it’s something that can potentially make you feel sad for years. Maybe even for the rest of your life. But that doesn’t mean the sadness has to be paralyzing or has to throw you into a depression. By getting over the person, you can realize that losing them made you sad, and look back on it as you would any sad loss. It’s the period of time soon after the loss that should be the hardest, that makes you ask how to get over someone you love.

If the break-up is new, often the only way to deal with it is just to face the pain and ride it out. It’s going to hurt, no matter what you do. But there are some things you can do to lessen the pain. You can remove obvious visual reminders of the person, if possible. Photographs of them can be put away for a while. Gifts they gave you can be stored instead of displayed.

You can even avoid the places you used to go together for a while. This tip can be found in pretty much every list that explains how to get over someone you love, so it’s at least a popular idea that’s worth a try.

If you’re really having trouble living your life after the break-up, it might be necessary to seek counseling. Simply explain that you’ve just been through a painful break-up and ask the counselor how to get over someone you love. They can offer helpful advice, and can be more specific that generic lists about how to get over someone you love. A counselor can also probably offer better advice than friends or family.

Your friends and family might feel they know your situation too well. Some may have motives for help you get over the person. They might not have liked that you were in the relationship to begin with, so they might want you to get over things or move on to another person too quickly.

With a counselor, though, you can safely tell them things about the relationship you probably don’t want friends or family to even know.

Feel free to go to counseling for as long as you need to. If the counselor feels you’re spending too much time dwelling on how to get over someone you love, they’ll tell you.

I was on the edge when I broke up with my ex girlfriend. I didn’t know what I was going to do… Read my story here.